Definition of Recidivism-a tendency to relapse into a previous condition or mode of behavior; especially : relapse into criminal behavior. Is there a fine line between addiction and recidivism? Let’s consider how popular prison romances are and seem in no danger of dying out. One theory is that prisoners create a literal wall against closeness. Conjugal visits preclude hanging out Sunday morning with Russ and Daughters and The New York Times. They certainly eliminate variegated activities i.e. strolling through The Whitney and eating french toast at Bubby’s TriBeCa.
Delving into a veritable pantheon of theories that depict the profile of personalities enraptured by the incarcerated is a thesis unto itself. Far from the cover for every pot concept.
This week-end I viewed Jacob Ephron’s documentary on his mom Nora Ephron. Oh, Nora you hated your neck and we loved you. So relatable through your self- deprecatory humor- so charming. And I quote “when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” Amen! The converse rings ever so true. When you understand that burnt pot roast doesn’t necessarily taste so good, negating what we grew up eating it, you throw it out and start again. Sensibility does not kick in by chance. When our palates change through the “don’t touch the stove, you’ll burn your hand theory; hopefully we don’t wait for the next ship to come in to carpe diem. The “I would rather not’s” turn into the “I won’t again’s.” We plunge ahead, dive right in allowing nothing to eclipse change. Seizing opportunities and disregarding discouragements our modus operandi.
How many reapprochments fail? If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work. When we get sick and tired of being sick and tired, so they say, we invite someone else to play mah Jongg, over for dinner, or out to lunch. Unshackled, we go forward and ask for a second portion. And- I quote Nora again. “Above all , be the heroine of your life, not the victim. It will be a little messy, but embrace the mess.” Let’s do it Monday- I got you covered.